F it !
March 19, 2007
Friend or Fo.. Forgive or Forget.. Fa fa fa - fa - fa - fa faaaaaaaa !
Blaaaaaah !
There are those that forget my birthday, Eid, and certain occasions every year for the past 10 years… but always call and make an effort about other things…
Even if I know they forget silly occasions along the years I learnt to accept that friends aren’t about popping up on occasions..
But they’ll always be there for me in hard times, love me unconditionally, take my crap when I throw it in their face and accept me for who I am.. appreciating that I cut them some slack too.
Then
There are those.. that are master minds in the art of selfishness.. it’s always about them.
“why didn’t you call ME?”
“why don’t you care about ME!”
“are you gonna talk over ME?”
“why do you treat ME this and that way”
My life does not rotate around yours, so it’s not all about you and frankly you need to start seeing it that way.
Now, a friend was telling me the other day that “we’ve all lived a fair share of unexpected and unwanted drama in our lives.. but why should we accept it if someone else is adding more of that unwanted drama into our lives.”
So, while you’re off being a workaholic, busy working your butt off, making time to socialize with new ppl, and attending family events.. put everything in pause for a minute and then take a step back and look at the big picture.
All your other friends aren’t making a big deal.. they’re not possessive.. they’re not rude coz you have a busy lifestyle and they support you through all your endeavours.
So when you get a few loaded statements on the phone or via sms from someone that has wronged you stating:
“ishda3wa no hi, or how are you for so long”
then you should think: “speak for yourself.. you’ve had my number all this time too and you never asked about me either”. Instead, a simple “hi I miss you” woulda gotten a phone call from me.. but if you’re giving me attitude from the start then sorry I’m not taking it anymore.
Better yet, if I’m the one that always calls, smses and makes an effort to stay in-touch but I get loaded statements like “you make time for others, you’re always saying you’re busy but you’re out with so and so” then try make an effort yourself rather than sulking, call me for a change, say lets do something, and we’ll work on it from there.
However, when you shut the phone, rudely, while I am talking in utter respect to you.. then No.. don’t bother calling me ever again.. (unless you wanna apologize.. coz I do have a tub of mush for a heart and I forgive easily)
What’s worse is that I actually care.. so much.. so much that it bothers me.. wanted to call back many times, or say hello when I see you.. and the negative energy is suffocating me.. like I have bad Karma all around me.. I forgive you all for you’re simply human errs.. but I won’t tolerate anymore rudeness or negativity.. think positive.. be happy.. and smile :)
(talk about venting ha?)
anyways no one said it better than Lauren from the Catherine Tate Show:
March 19, 2007 at 7:40 pm
Unfortunately the ’selfish’ friend is common phenomenon in the Kuwaiti culture… I’ve met more than my fair share.. but here’s what my almost 24 years on this earth mingling with the Kuwaiti crowd has taught me.. Waste time on those that count, those that want to use u and create drama seriously just leave them alone.. its not worth it. I have enough stress in my life :P when i’m with my friends i want to enjoy myself and bond, not argue and play the guilt game (aren’t mothers for that ;p) Yes this method doesnt put u in the greatest social circles… but two amazing friends are worth more than popularity to me.
March 19, 2007 at 9:42 pm
She did that?? NO she didn’t? NO SHE DIDN’T?
March 19, 2007 at 11:51 pm
akrah shay lama a7ad dayman yeshrah.. i know sometimes it’s cute cuz it shows that the other person cares.. but then there r those who complain every freakin’ time.. and it gets to a point where i DO think of them, but i refuse to pick up the fone to call or sms cuz i dont want to hear them whine again!
on several occassions, after putting up w/it for a while, i eventually give those ppl a piece of my mind and majority of the time, they do stop complaining.. and when they dont, i just completely back off.. dont need ppl like that in my life.
March 20, 2007 at 12:12 am
Ehhh. People will be people. Nothing we can do. Frienship is a trial and error procedure. Ma3lish :* i luv u!
“tub of mush of a heart” struck close to home, i hate my mushiness sometimes….but i really wouldnt have it any other way.
March 20, 2007 at 12:35 am
I gave up on “he”’s a looong time ago…
March 20, 2007 at 12:58 am
nothing new here
another post please
March 20, 2007 at 1:38 am
i am sooooo over highschool girl drama
i feel i am too old to even argue with people anymore
“6anish ta3ish tanta3ish”
March 20, 2007 at 8:09 am
i hate, hate, hate getting those. La o especially from people when i do try and talk to them they usually dont have the time to talk fa i just say bleh il ignore them til they talk to me. O when i do get something from them its that shda3wa msg bes ive been known to be a wee bit to frank at times so my reply for that is something along the lines of oo yea cuz ur flooding my msgs 9a7 :p
March 20, 2007 at 10:45 am
Hun tara sa3at lamma yitisharihon 3alaich bass 7achwa tingal moo min sujjhum so don’t take it to heart.
But about the drama and negativity effect, misery loves company. Some overly dramatic freinds are worth you suffering along with them and taking their crap. But usually you can count the number of freinds like that on one hand. Other drama queens add a negative energy to your life without doing anything to make it worth it for you to stick around.
March 20, 2007 at 11:42 am
.. Totally hit a raw nerve.
I could not have said it better. Either people get smart and tell people to piss off (What have you got to lose these days in a world full of fools) or all their good energy gets sucked out leaving them .. With nothing but BAD KARMA!
March 20, 2007 at 7:56 pm
I loved the video hehe. I had a little problem with her accent, but nothing that can’t totally understood :P
D.. Some people are just like that, they mistreat you o yetsharehon, o ma 3endehom themma aw e7sas bel mas’oleya.. o etha beghale6 fog hatha, mala 7ag ya6leb ayshay gabel la ye3tether methel ma gelty. I don’t think its that bad.. judging from the video u posted :P What you need is a hug.. so grab the next friend/family member and give them a hug for you! :P
March 21, 2007 at 10:24 pm
How was the hug :P Love the template, pimpin.
March 27, 2007 at 2:33 am
hahaha Bing Bing! You know what, I’m just friends with people I can depend on and people who are honest whether its bad or good! I like it straight.. I’m happy I’m a guy so that I don’t have to deal with half that crap! But your right if they are acting that way then don’t really waste your time, have lots of acquaintances but few friends!